1. Communicate Like an Adult.
I have learned that no matter what happened we have to communicate and have a mutual understanding of what we feel and what we think about each other. In the past, I act so irrational that I can be so unreasonable and my stubbornness always gets to me and I ended up being upset and pushy. Now that I realize all my wrong doings, I am willing to change my ways of communicating. I try to compromise and respect each other's boundaries.
2. Have you're own goals and interest.
It's healthy for a couple to keep you're own individual interest and self goals in life. There is nothing wrong of having same goals and interest while being in a relationship but sometimes people forget about their own individual interest that they have to compromise again and again just because they want to please the other person in the relationship. And that person was me. I was consume about being in that relationship that I forgot who I was before that person and gradually becoming that person I did not wanted to be. I've learned that I do not need to lose my own identity within the relationship.
3. Respect for one other.
I acknowledge in my previous relationship, I got used to the disrespecting way that it became my new normal. Gradually I was becoming aware of what was going on and I started to realize that I do not want to be treated like that anymore. And now that I'm not in a toxic relationship anymore, We have a mutual understand on respecting one other's wish. (If it's reasonable) Respecting each other is another way of showing love to one another.
4. It's okay to show some physical touch and affection.
To tell you guys the truth, I am not a big fan of Public Display of Affection. I have that tendency to reject someone's affection whether it's a simple hug or holding hands. Nevertheless I'm slowly getting use to the ideal of showing some physical touch and welcome affection in public. It's not about being a show-off, whereas it makes the relationship to be move loving and I guess exciting.
5. Knowing how to apologize or forgive and then let it go after..
Referring back to "Communicate Like an Adult", I can be really stubborn and I can hold grudges even after apologizing. Sometimes apologizing is not even enough for me, I want to see actions and that it will never happened again. But that's my unrealistic judgement saying that to myself over and over again. Every so often, I forgot that we are all humans and we do make mistakes. So after apologizing, we must forgive and just let it go.
6. Mutual goals in life.
Having a mutual goal is an important role to any relationship out there. If you guys do not have that mutual understanding about which direction is your relationship heading, then what is the point of staying in that kind of relationship if you guys both know you're not going to the same direction. It's just a reminder that being in a relationship is being on a same team.
7. Make time for one other.
We can be so busy with our individual work schedule that often times we only see each other once a week. Although I want us to spend more days to see each other, I have no problem with just one whole day. Whether is a special date night or just binge-watching tv on a Sunday night, it does not matter as long as we make time to be with one other that day.
8. Show gratitude or to compliment
I've learned from the hard way that sometimes I took for granted of all the little positive moments that happened in my previous relationship and that I focus more on the negative moments we had towards the end of the relationship. It took me awhile to realize that I rarely show my gratitude. Now to make amends to all my wrongdoing in the past, I try my best to show more of my gratitude towards my chinito bear and compliment him whenever I have a chance to tell him.
9. Support and encourage each other.
I have learned that no matter what happened we have to communicate and have a mutual understanding of what we feel and what we think about each other. In the past, I act so irrational that I can be so unreasonable and my stubbornness always gets to me and I ended up being upset and pushy. Now that I realize all my wrong doings, I am willing to change my ways of communicating. I try to compromise and respect each other's boundaries.
2. Have you're own goals and interest.
It's healthy for a couple to keep you're own individual interest and self goals in life. There is nothing wrong of having same goals and interest while being in a relationship but sometimes people forget about their own individual interest that they have to compromise again and again just because they want to please the other person in the relationship. And that person was me. I was consume about being in that relationship that I forgot who I was before that person and gradually becoming that person I did not wanted to be. I've learned that I do not need to lose my own identity within the relationship.
3. Respect for one other.
I acknowledge in my previous relationship, I got used to the disrespecting way that it became my new normal. Gradually I was becoming aware of what was going on and I started to realize that I do not want to be treated like that anymore. And now that I'm not in a toxic relationship anymore, We have a mutual understand on respecting one other's wish. (If it's reasonable) Respecting each other is another way of showing love to one another.
4. It's okay to show some physical touch and affection.
To tell you guys the truth, I am not a big fan of Public Display of Affection. I have that tendency to reject someone's affection whether it's a simple hug or holding hands. Nevertheless I'm slowly getting use to the ideal of showing some physical touch and welcome affection in public. It's not about being a show-off, whereas it makes the relationship to be move loving and I guess exciting.
5. Knowing how to apologize or forgive and then let it go after..
Referring back to "Communicate Like an Adult", I can be really stubborn and I can hold grudges even after apologizing. Sometimes apologizing is not even enough for me, I want to see actions and that it will never happened again. But that's my unrealistic judgement saying that to myself over and over again. Every so often, I forgot that we are all humans and we do make mistakes. So after apologizing, we must forgive and just let it go.
6. Mutual goals in life.
Having a mutual goal is an important role to any relationship out there. If you guys do not have that mutual understanding about which direction is your relationship heading, then what is the point of staying in that kind of relationship if you guys both know you're not going to the same direction. It's just a reminder that being in a relationship is being on a same team.
7. Make time for one other.
We can be so busy with our individual work schedule that often times we only see each other once a week. Although I want us to spend more days to see each other, I have no problem with just one whole day. Whether is a special date night or just binge-watching tv on a Sunday night, it does not matter as long as we make time to be with one other that day.
8. Show gratitude or to compliment
I've learned from the hard way that sometimes I took for granted of all the little positive moments that happened in my previous relationship and that I focus more on the negative moments we had towards the end of the relationship. It took me awhile to realize that I rarely show my gratitude. Now to make amends to all my wrongdoing in the past, I try my best to show more of my gratitude towards my chinito bear and compliment him whenever I have a chance to tell him.
9. Support and encourage each other.
As time passes by, we have some challenges in life that we need to overcome whether it's stress from work or just feeling down. As a couple, both of us know how to support and encourage each other and stay optimistic about life itself.
10. Trust and Honesty
Last but not the least, having trust and being honest to each other. I've learned that having a healthy relationship it always starts with trust and honesty. This two terms (trust and honesty) are so important to me because I did have a lot of trust-issue growing up and being dishonest with me, just makes it worse for me to cope with my own issues. I've learned that I had to overcome all of those issues I had and rebuild again. With communication and pure honesty.
Well that's all for now...
~SHOW LOVE AND BE LOVE
Until next time,
Last but not the least, having trust and being honest to each other. I've learned that having a healthy relationship it always starts with trust and honesty. This two terms (trust and honesty) are so important to me because I did have a lot of trust-issue growing up and being dishonest with me, just makes it worse for me to cope with my own issues. I've learned that I had to overcome all of those issues I had and rebuild again. With communication and pure honesty.
Well that's all for now...
~SHOW LOVE AND BE LOVE
Until next time,
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